Though He slay me, yet I will hope in Him; I will surely defend my ways to His face. Job 13:15

This is one of the most astounding declarations of faith about the goodness of God that was ever spoken. Whatever God allowed to happen to Job, whatever burden He laid upon Him, whatver pain he suffered, even if God should decide to “slay” him, Job ultimately believed that God would NOT fail him. Think about that.

He had complete and TOTAL reliance upon God. Contemplate the fact that it was NOT even a possibility to Job that God could fail him so therefore he never even considered it even though his so-called friends pressed him too.

I find his statement more exacerbating due to the timing of when he said it. He found himself right in the middle of the most agonizing experiences any human being would ever have to go through. He lost his family, his wealth, his land, his livestock, his house, and finally, his health…and none of this by his own hand.

If you were in Job’s circumstance, could you still have faith in someone that has deserted you? 

If God seemingly abandoned you and then you fell into the series of misfortunes like Job went through wouldn’t it be easy to just say, “to heck with this!” and give up and disown God? Why didn’t Job do that?

What kind of relationship did Job have with God that he not only had faith in Him but knew God’s very nature well enough to know that whatever, was happening to him, whatever this looked like visually, was NOT the God he was connected to and knew. I find that incredible.

Just consider with me for a moment the idea of having someone in your life that will not fail you, will not stop supporting or encouraging you, or will not walk away from you even at your ugliest moments.

When you have failed someone or yourself. When you are having real trouble just loving yourself…that is the low point I am referring to. That is the specific spot that when you reach it…is where Jesus meets you. Right when you feel the most alone possible. He is RIGHT there with you.

Job knew it because he had experienced something with God that he didn’t want to lose. That inner peace is simply the love of the savior towards you and me. Job believed that to his core and that faith gave him the strength to say, “though he slay me, yet I will hope in Him”.  Can you imagine being connected to Christ where you could say that AND believe it even during the worst of times? 

Can you imagine trusting Christ SO much that nothing in this world really mattered? Why? because this is all just “STUFF”…just things we leave behind. 

The only thing that matters is your journey on this Earth to get to Him, AND…who you touch along the way. Your wife, your family, your friends, and everyone else.

Guys, I encourage you today to build your faith during these extremely difficult times. Be prepared so that if the time ever came, walking away from God could NEVER be an option.

You would simply say, “But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord”, Joshua 24:15

Until next time Guys…

I recently heard a song on a country station that got me thinking about life right now and my own modified routine during this crazy time of being quarantined. I don’t know about you, but everything in my life has been radically changed including having to work from home because I’m considered “non-essential”. That feels good…

I have to say though, that this song reminded me of how God works when it talked about finding Him anywhere throughout the day. And ironically, the song said he found God in the most common of places…he didn’t have to be in church, or on a mountain top…He found God driving, fishing…anywhere. As you can imagine, that got me thinking about where I see God inserting himself into my life during this time of being unable to go to work. Working from home on a cell phone is painful, but yet, God reminded me though, I am still employed when some are not. AND…He is right there beside me and that helped me greatly.

This whole situation reminded me of the poem called “Footprints” I read when I was younger where a man was looking back over his life and he noticed that through the very difficult times he only saw one set of footprints in the sand. And so he questioned God, because it looked like God had abandoned him during the hardest parts of his life. But what he learned was that God had been carrying him the whole time. God had NOT abandoned him but rather was holding him tightly, just like a father would do.

I just think it’s important to recognize as men, that we are not alone in this life even though sometimes it really feels that way. Guys…God IS there quietly working to help us, to strengthen us, and to support us.

The Bible says in Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all of your heart”. Guys, I encourage you today to push forward through this difficult time of COVID…whatever that looks like for you. Truly seek God for the answers you need and He will provide you the relief…All you have to do is ask. 

AND…PLEASE do not be discouraged if you don’t hear His voice. Just stay focused with your eyes on Him and you will get through. Remember, what you are seeking is that place in your life where you will find God. And believe me, that can be anywhere.

So, now that you know He will meet you anywhere and everywhere, what do you want to ask Him?

Until next time guys…

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Jesus said to his disciples in Luke 18:8, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?

Guys, as we approach our collective futures, the question for each believer is… Am I persevering in faith, continuing steadfast in prayer, and calling on God so that justice may be done and his righteous cause may triumph completely and forever?

Or am I so preoccupied with this life, my life, that I am not looking forward to Christ’s return and his eternal kingdom?

Which one are you?

If you are too busy to remember what Christ did for you on the cross, then this short reminder is for you… I encourage you, my brother, to stop and hit the reset switch for yourself and your eyes back on Christ and not on what you see in front of you or on your phone.

All of the distractions…well, those are Satan‘s traps he has set for you. Think about this, by distracting you, he can persuade you into believing that what you see around you is all there is to YOUR life… But that is NOT THE TRUTH, your life and your future life is to live with Christ having an eternal future…that is His plan for you.

Guys…Don’t lose your focus. Put your phone down for a minute and don’t become preoccupied with what is on this earth. It is only TEMPORARY.

In His word, Christ encourages us to seek him every day, all the time, so that our faith stays strong…In Jeremiah 29:13 we are told, you will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 

At the beginning of this blog, I gave you a verse in Luke that talked about even Christ having concerns that when he returns to this earth will there be any faith left?

I ask you today… Is your faith still there?…or are you preoccupied?

Stay strong-

Until next time guys…

 

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I have started many blogs on the topic of joy but I’ve never really been able to get very far. You see; in my mind, joy for me was not something I was completely sure about. Joy was always this distant point on the horizon that always eluded me. Joy was like that water mirage in the desert…the one that looks clear until you get close and then it just disappears. That was my version of joy…or at least that is what it seemed.

I also thought joy was a by-product of my circumstances, or in other words, if I’m at Disneyland, surrounded by happy people, then I should be full of joy, right? 

Wrong.

I do think it’s easy to look at the word joy and not really understand it. And for guys this especially true because we tend to look at everything through our identity prism i.e., Achievement, Conquests, etc. WHY? Because that is what the world thinks that joy is.

In other words, the world’s version of joy actually means, what YOU have or achieved, things like money, cars, or just, lots of “stuff”. So that means if you don’t have those things, then you don’t have joy?…is that a fair statement? 

Does “stuff” equal real joy?

Definition according to Webster:

a: joy is the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires: delight

Actually, this definition does NOT surprise me at all because it just confirms what we just spoke about. In the eyes of the world, Joy equals well-being, success, and good fortune.

Here is why I wrote this particular blog on this topic;  recently, as I was struggling with a particularly difficult week, God punched me in the face with something that I had not seen before. It was like He pulled the curtain back and let me look beyond what my eyes could see. What I saw, gave me understanding, and most of all, some joy “perspective”.

I felt as if He asked me, “what are the blessings that I have given you?” which really caused me to think. What I saw beyond that curtain was simply my family. My wife, who still loves me after almost 35 years, my sons, my daughter-in-law, and a new grandson. Honestly, I didn’t see any “stuff” like cars or vacations or anything like that. For me, that was the difference. 

You see, I am the guy that always gets lost when trying to focus on the things that I thought would bring me joy…and that was God’s point…THINGS DON’T BRING US JOY, HE DOES.

By focusing on the things of Him, He showed me that by looking at MY LIFES BLESSINGS, it caused me to see them for what they truly are…my version of joy.

So look at it this way guys…

Throughout the chaos and the mayhem of any given day, when your focus on the day and the outcome of that day is bringing you down…I encourage you to stare into that mist and look to find your own blessings… Because what I found is that by focusing on those, suddenly the day doesn’t seem so bad. 

So you knew after reading this blog that I had to ask this question…

What is your version of joy?

Until next time guys-

Hey Guys-

Its been a while since I have been able to post to this blog as life has gotten in the way. Maybe some of you can identify with me? I am certainly working to correct my consistency but in the meantime, I have found a post from a huge hero of mine, Pastor Rick Warren who happens to write about a topic we all want to know the answer to…God’s Purpose Behind our Problems…

Written by Rick Warren

 

Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities. The problems you

face will either defeat you or develop you – depending on how you

respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants

to use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and

resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit

they might bring. Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in

your life:

 

  1. God uses problems to DIRECT you. Sometimes God must light a fire

under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new

direction and motivate us to change. Is God trying to get your

attention? “Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change

our ways.” Pr. 20: 30 (GN)

 

  1. God uses problems to INSPECT you. People are like tea bags… if

you want to know what’s inside them, just drop them into hot water!

Has God ever tested your faith with a problem? What do problems

reveal about you? “When you have many kinds of troubles, you should

be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith,

and this will give you patience.” James 1:2-3 (NCV)

 

  1. God uses problems to CORRECT you. Some lessons we learn only

through pain and failure. It’s likely that as a child your parents

told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being

burned. Sometimes we only learn the value of something… health,

money, a relationship … by losing it. “… It was the best thing

that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to

your laws.” Ps 119:71-72 (LB)

 

  1. God uses problems to PROTECT you. A problem can be a blessing in

disguise if it prevents you from being harmed by something more

serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something

unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a

problem – but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a

year later when management’s actions were eventually discovered. “You

intended to harm me, but God intended it for good…” Gen. 50:20 (NIV)

 

  1. God uses problems to PERFECT you. Problems, when responded to

correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your

character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your

character are the only two things you’re going to take with you into

eternity. “We can rejoice when we run into problems …they help us

learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in

us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our

hope and faith are strong and steady.” Rom. 5:3-4 (LB)

 

Here’s the point: God is at work in your life – even when you do not recognize it or understand it! But it’s much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him!

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I am sure that most people, whether Christian or non-Christian, would agree with me when I say that I do not understand why God does or doesn’t anything about what happens on this Earth. God is, and continues to be, a God who doesn’t behave like I would if I were Him…and that my friends, is the main point of this post.

Now, I would not consider myself a big theological guy like my friend, @JeremyRiley, but yet when it comes to God and how we think about Him or how He thinks about us, it might just take some real theology to get the answer we seek.

Let me explain; what I am saying here isn’t really a new revelation but it’s critical to understand this point about God; which is simply that all of us are bound by our “humanness”. What I mean is, because we are human we act accordingly, which means we act…well…like humans…and as a result, how we think about God is affected by our capacity to understand Him. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard friends or acquaintances exclaim, “why did God do that?” or “NOT do that?” and in my mind, I am saying, “what was God thinking?” Yet the answer is actually in scripture and is enlightening if you have never thought like this before…

God was thinking like God and NOT like us…Read this verse from Psalms:

These things you have done and I kept silent; you thought I was altogether like youPsalms 50:21

The only reason our natural inclination is to think that God would be like us is because what else would He be like? All we have ever been exposed to on this Earth is each other. Moreover, we know that He created us in His own image because the Bible tells us this fact in Genesis so it is reasonable to assume that God is like us right?

Wrong.

Let’s just start there. He clearly states this in the scripture above, ”YOU THOUGHT I WAS ALTOGETHER LIKE YOU”.

Well, He isn’t. God can only be HIMSELF. He is bound by His holiness to be who He is.

I think one of the biggest misconceptions that we have here on earth is that WE think God should behave as we do. Think about that for a second. I have seen people get very angry because they were truly upset that God didn’t intervene or fix a situation that in their minds, God could have taken care of in an instant…but He didn’t.

When this happens, it creates a huge gap between what we THINK we see God doing VERSUS what God is REALLY doing. Read this verse below from Isaiah to help me illustrate my point:

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9 ESV)

For some of us, it may take some humility for us to recognize this very simple fact; that Gods ways are higher and better than our own but again, starting right there with how we think about God.

It is critical for us to recognize our place changes everything for us in how we approach and ultimately come to grips with who He is.

Have you ever heard the expression that “God is God and I am not”? Well, that is a reality check for those of us who just assumed that He might act as we wanted Him too.

But I do have some good news for those who feel this information above might have been a reality check for you;

Gods plan was never about God becoming who we wanted Him to be…but rather it was always about mankind, meaning you and me, becoming more like Him. Take a look at this verse in Romans that illustrates this;

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2 ESV)

Think about this verse guys…

You can conform your heart and mind to be more like God’s and I can tell you that when this happens, it truly changes the way you think. Do you remember at the beginning of this post when I mentioned about being frustrated with God because He isn’t fixing or doing something as you think He should?…now you can see that when we think differently about God because of a renewal of our minds, suddenly, there is an understanding there that wasn’t there before.

Keep in mind that God is just being God and carrying out His plan for our lives and we just need to listen…

Until next time guys…

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I have a friend who by earthly standards is incredibly successful. In fact, when I look at his “Midas touch” in business, I find myself amazed at what he has done and continues to do. I won’t go into all of his business statistics because frankly, they are mind-boggling but suffice it to say, my friend is very gifted with a business mind.

That being said, along with wealth comes all the other “stuff” right? Cars, houses, vacations, etc. everything on this earth that I wouldn’t mind having myself. You see it’s very easy to look at his life and all of his stuff and do what the Bible calls…covet.

Coveting is wanting what someone else has and throughout the Bible we are presented with scenarios that show that coveting never turns out well for the coveter. In fact, coveting is one of the 10 commandments…which is how much God didn’t want us to look at our neighbor and lust for their stuff.

Now, I know that I am not telling any one anything you don’t already know. This is a very old lesson and many of us are humbled each time we find ourselves going down the coveting path. My only purpose in talking today is taking a look at this idea of what he has, versus what I have.

You see, when I mentioned my friend before, I was careful to say “by earthly standards” he is rich. One thing I have learned over time is everything I see around me is temporary…EVERYTHING. It will all go away at some point with the biggest being ME. I am not going to live forever nor do I want to…at least, here.

(Side note: I do believe I will live forever in another place that is being prepared for me and there, coveting and comparisons to other people all go away.)

My point is when I compare what I have accomplished to what he has accomplished, it is very easy to think something went wrong however, I am very quick to point out to all of you that is EXACTLY what Satan wants you to think. He wants you to think you are a failure and you aren’t worth anything.

WRONG…

The Bible tells us:

Jeremiah 29:11-14 (ESV) 11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. 13 You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you, declares the Lord..

The Bible also tells us this:

Matthew 6:19-21 (ESV) 19 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

So as I continue to ponder the “why” of my of my supposed earthly “predicament” as to why I am not earthly rich, I am reminded of the lesson God wanted me to understand in the first place;

Each day of my life, I am depositing my future wealth into a far better place than this temporary one called earth.

Please remember this guys-

I hope that statement above will give you hope as it does me. Frankly, if I believe it faithfully, it will allow me to spend less time wondering why, and more time enjoying the life God has blessed me with right now.

Would that make a difference for you too?

Until next time guys…

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Ever felt sorry for yourself?

Yep…I’ve decided that life isn’t going my way right now and the easiest way for me to deal with it is to just feel sorry for myself. I’ve been working hard everyday, struggling to do everything I am supposed to do and still I am not where I want to be in life…so why not feel sorry for myself? Maybe I can get some sympathy from my boss who is holding me back? Or maybe I can get sympathy from my friends, or my wife?

In my opinion, feeling sorry for oneself is the easy road to take. All you are really saying is, “I don’t have to do anything and hopefully, someone will react to my situation? Maybe commiserate with me a little? Maybe help me out”?

What am I really looking for? Someone to say, “Yes, you are right, you’ve got it tough right now”, Would that make me feel better? Honestly, no guys, it wouldn’t. But let me share with you a small quote from someone whom I have great respect for and frankly, once I read what she wrote, I was humbled. She gave me a better perspective. Read this and see what you think:

 

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

 If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

 If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.

 If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

 The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

 Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.

 For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.

 It was never between you and them anyway…Mother Teresa

 

That, my friends, is a great perspective. You see we can’t help the fact that we tend to only focus on what we see directly in front of us and lose the essential, important point that it, LIFE ETC. was never about the people we deal with, or all the things you are feeling sorry for yourself about, but rather, it was only ever about your relationship with God.

You find yourself upset about what is going on at work or at school and although it may be a very big deal for you, this simple quote puts that frustration in better perspective.

 

So here is my challenge for you as you embark on a whole new journey for 2017.

Don’t get so enveloped into these “life’s little things” where you lose sight of your ultimate goal. You see, as I’ve said before on this blog, busy-ness is Satan’s plan for you and he wants to keep you focused on the idea that this journey is solely about you and him…and NOT about you and God.

Guys, Life was always ONLY ever about you and God…and nothing else.

As you move forward into this New Year please remember that…

 

I pray for a great 2017 for you and our country.

God Bless you and God Bless America-

 

Until next time guys-

 

 

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Would it make any difference to you if you could have background knowledge of events before they happened so that you would “know what to do” when the time came? Do you think that just having that understanding might give you more of a sense of confidence in this world because you knew what was going to happen?

I think the easy answer is yes to these questions because understanding is so important when events are happening around us. To possess the knowledge of maybe when to go, or when to stay, or when to speak, or when not to can be the difference between success and failure no matter what our situation.

Many people call what I am describing here discernment. Webster defines discerning as: to perceive by the sight or some other sense or to recognize as distinct or different.

Can you imagine the capability to discern what the intent was in any situation? Can you imagine having the ability to discern what was going on right now, in this age? To actually recognize something you and I see for what it is, and even more importantly, know what you should do about it?

I found an example of this very idea in the Bible that caused me to think about this topic and how this might apply to you and me. It is a very short verse but nonetheless, very powerful in its meaning:

…men of Issachar, who understood the times and knew what Israel should do-200 chiefs, with all their relatives under their command; 1 Chronicles 12:32

In the research I have done on the Men of Issachar, I have learned that whole books and sermons have been written and preached over just these few words.

The set up for this verse is that the Philistines have killed Saul and David has been anointed King over Israel. He has been living in Hebron prior to him taking back Jerusalem as his kingdom however during his time in Hebron, warriors came from all over to join his army and as the writer of Chronicles tells us in verse 22, Day after day men came to help David, until he had a great army, like the army of God. One of these groups joining him were the men of Issachar, one of the 12 tribes of Israel. I think it is important to point out here in scripture, they receive special mention because of out of all the tribes; they discerned what God was doing by bringing David to the throne and as a result, they understood the specific circumstances as God revealed to them through discernment.

These men had received from God the gift of discernment and used it in the way He wanted them to. In this instance, they recognized that this was a crucial time – the 11 tribes of Israel were without a leader, without guidance, and a model to follow. This was a time for special understanding. It was a time for real discernment.

But to me, the most compelling part of this verse is; they knew what Israel should do.

 I come back to one of my original questions from the beginning:

Can you imagine knowing what to do and the right time you should do it?

If you said yes, then join the club because who wouldn’t want that ability?

But the reality is guys is that any of us can have this ability and all we have to do is ask. But understand up front from me that Spiritual discernment is far more than a skill, but rather it is a gift from God. Moreover, God can only give it to you if you do the following:

One who does not love does not know God, for God is love. (I John 4:8)

Guys, God wants you plugged into Him for the answers you need everyday and if you can do that, if you will seek Him constantly, daily, all the time, He will give you the discernment necessary to make the right decisions for you and your family.

I will not lie to you. This process takes effort from you. You have to do the heavy lifting by getting on your knees and talking to Him about your life, your family and all the difficult stuff. Your relationship with God is just like muscle, if you don’t physically exercise, your muscles get atrophied and soft. On the other hand, when you do exercise, your muscles stay strong and can bear a tremendous amount of stuff this world will throw at you.

If you exercise your relationship with God, I can guarantee you a different result when you ask for discernment.

There…you now have the answers to the test.

The question is…what are you going to do about it?

 

Until next time guys-

Happy New Year from IronmanStrength!

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Hey Guys-

As I’ve told you before, every now and then I run across a story that fits right into the message here at IronMan Strength and this one no exception. I learned about this college baseball coach a couple of years ago and as I began to research him, I began to understand why he was such a legend in the eyes of so many of his former players as well as anyone else who knew of him.

John Scolinos was born March 28, 1918-2009) in Los Angeles, California and was a Hall of Fame College Baseball Head coach who coached at Pepperdine University from 1948 to 1960 and Cal Poly Pomona University from 1962 to 1991. He died at age 91 in 2009.

Coach Scolinos had a total of 1,198 victories on the diamond and while coaching Cal Poly Pomona, he won Division II national championships in 1976, 1980 and 1983. Along with the aforementioned, he also won six California Community College Athletic Association championships and was named Division II coach of the year three times.

He was even the pitching coach for the 1984 U.S. Olympic Baseball team that included Will Clark and Mark McGwire, in which they finished as runner up to the Japanese that year.

This story was written a few years back by Chris Sperry and appeared on his blog, http://www.sperrybaseballlife.com/stay-at-17-inches/

I hope you enjoy…

 

“Stay at 17 inches!”

In Nashville, Tennessee, during the first week of January, 1996, more than 4,000 baseball coaches descended upon the Opryland Hotel for the 52nd annual ABCA convention.

While I waited in line to register with the hotel staff, I heard other more veteran coaches rumbling about the lineup of speakers scheduled to present during the weekend.  One name, in particular, kept resurfacing, always with the same sentiment — “John Scolinos is here?  Oh man, worth every penny of my airfare.”

Who, is John Scolinos, I wondered.  No matter, I was just happy to be there.

In 1996, Coach Scolinos was 78 years old and five years retired from a college coaching career that began in 1948.  He shuffled to the stage to an impressive standing ovation, wearing dark polyester pants, a light blue shirt, and a string around his neck from which home plate hung — a full-sized, stark-white home plate.

Seriously, I wondered, who in the world is this guy?

After speaking for twenty-five minutes, not once mentioning the prop hanging around his neck, Coach Scolinos appeared to notice the snickering among some of the coaches.  Even those who knew Coach Scolinos had to wonder exactly where he was going with this, or if he had simply forgotten about home plate since he’d gotten on stage.  Then, finally …

“You’re probably all wondering why I’m wearing home plate around my neck.  Or maybe you think I escaped from Camarillo State Hospital,” he said, his voice growing irascible.  I laughed along with the others, acknowledging the possibility.  “No,” he continued, “I may be old, but I’m not crazy.  The reason I stand before you today is to share with you baseball people what I’ve learned in my life, what I’ve learned about home plate in my 78 years.”

Several hands went up when Scolinos asked how many Little League coaches were in the room.  “Do you know how wide home plate is in Little League?”

After a pause, someone offered, “Seventeen inches?” more of a question than answer.

“That’s right,” he said.  “How about in Babe Ruth’s day?  Any Babe Ruth coaches in the house?”

Another long pause.

“Seventeen inches?” came a guess from another reluctant coach.

“That’s right,” said Scolinos. “Now, how many high school coaches do we have in the room?”  Hundreds of hands shot up, as the pattern began to appear.

“How wide is home plate in high school baseball?”

“Seventeen inches,” they said, sounding more confident.

“You’re right!” Scolinos barked.  “And you college coaches, how wide is home plate in college?”

“Seventeen inches!” we said, in unison.

“Any Minor League coaches here?  How wide is home plate in pro ball?”

“Seventeen inches!”

“RIGHT!  And in the Major Leagues, how wide is home plate in the Major Leagues?”

“Seventeen inches!”

“SEV-EN-TEEN INCHES!” he confirmed, his voice bellowing off the walls.

“And what do they do with a Big League pitcher who can’t throw the ball over seventeen inches?”  Pause.  “They send him to Pocatello!” he hollered, drawing raucous laughter.

“What they don’t do is this: they don’t say, ‘Ah, that’s okay, Jimmy.  You can’t hit a seventeen-inch target?  We’ll make it eighteen inches, or nineteen inches.  We’ll make it twenty inches so you have a better chance of hitting it.  If you can’t hit that, let us know so we can make it wider still, say twenty-five inches.’”

Pause.

“Coaches …”

Pause.

” … what do we do when our best player shows up late to practice?  When our team rules forbid facial hair and a guy shows up unshaven?  What if he gets caught drinking?  Do we hold him accountable?  Or do we change the rules to fit him.  Do we widen home plate?

The chuckles gradually faded as four thousand coaches grew quiet, the fog lifting as the old coach’s message began to unfold.  He turned the plate toward himself and, using a Sharpie, began to draw something.  When he turned it toward the crowd, point up, a house was revealed, complete with a freshly drawn door and two windows.  “This is the problem in our homes today.  With our marriages, with the way we parent our kids.  With our discipline.  We don’t teach accountability to our kids, and there is no consequence for failing to meet standards.  We simply, widen the plate!”

Pause.

Then, to the point at the top of the house he added a small American flag.

“This is the problem in our public schools today.  The quality of our education is going downhill fast and teachers have been stripped of the tools they need to be successful, and to educate and discipline our young people.  We are allowing others to widen home plate!  Where is that getting us?”

Silence.

He replaced the flag with a Cross.

“And this is the problem in the Church, where powerful people in positions of authority have taken advantage of young children, only to have such an atrocity swept under the rug for years.  Our church leaders are widening home plate for themselves!  And we allow it.”

“And the same is true with our government.  Our so called representatives make rules for us that don’t apply to themselves.  They take bribes from lobbyists and foreign countries.  They no longer serve us.  And we allow them to widen home plate and we see our country falling into a dark abyss while we watch.”

I was amazed.  At a baseball convention where I expected to learn something about curveballs and bunting and how to run better practices, I had learned something far more valuable.  From an old man with home plate strung around his neck, I had learned something about life, about myself, about my own weaknesses and about my responsibilities as a leader.  I had to hold myself and others accountable to that, which I knew to be right, lest our families, our faith, and our society continue down an undesirable path.

“If I am lucky,” Coach Scolinos concluded, “you will remember one thing from this old coach today.  It is this: if we fail to hold ourselves to a higher standard, a standard of what we know to be right; if we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to…” 

With that, he held home plate in front of his chest, turned it around, and revealed its dark black backside. “… dark days ahead.”

Coach Scolinos died in 2009 at the age of 91, but not before touching the lives of hundreds of players and coaches, including mine.  Meeting him at my first ABCA convention kept me returning year after year, looking for similar wisdom and inspiration from other coaches.  He is the best clinic speaker the ABCA has ever known because he was so much more than a baseball coach.

His message was clear: “Coaches, keep your players—no matter how good they are—your own children, your churches, your government, and most of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches.”

Until next time guys…