Posts Tagged ‘Separate yourself’

Do you just Go with the Flow?

Posted: November 2, 2025 in Tough Times
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One of the hardest things some of us had to deal with when we were younger, and maybe even now as adults, is peer pressure.  It’s that single point of divide where you are either one of the crowd or you separate and decide to act alone. As I am sure some of you have experienced, peer pressure is one of the strongest forms of influence you can be subjected to especially when you are young and aren’t equipped. You probably remember, that person who just goes with the flow.

Unfortunately, there are countless stories of young men who did not have the strength to say no, and found themselves in difficult situations that they only regretted later on. Whether that regret was with their family or even God, giving yourself over to the crowd, usually ends bad with all sorts of wrong outcomes.

I wanted to talk about that in today’s post after reading in 1 Peter 4:4 where he says, “they think it’s strange that you do not plunge with them into the same flood of dissipation (wasting away) and they heap abuse on you.“

Peter wrote these verses specifically to you and me who or are trying to separate themselves spiritually and more importantly, are working every day to keep it that way. The crowd or you’re so-called friends, when they see that you are not going to jump in with them…then heap abuse and insults on you. As if you are the problem.

Guys, are you ready for that abuse? Are you ready to be the one who separates from the crowd for the right reasons or are you the guy who can’t say no and just keeps on hanging out with that group?

Peter understood that point was important for all of us to comprehend. He tells us how we are going to be treated, but, and more importantly, he reminds all of us of what happens…in the end… if we don’t.

“But they will have to give a account to Him who is ready to judge the living and the dead“ 1 Peter 4:5

The way I see it, this is still your choice. It’s always been your individual choice. You can either live your life with the intent to serve God or you can continue to give into the peer pressure and keep going down the wide road which scripture tells us that ends in destruction. I am not being melodramatic…

I think that one of the main reasons why guys don’t make the right choice is because of the potential of suffering. But, I will tell you that those of us who willingly suffer for Christ’s cause find it easier to resist sin and to ultimately follow His will. What am I saying here? For all of us as Christian men, in 2025 soon to be 2026… You may be ridiculed for what you believe. Are you prepared for that?

My challenge to you today is to finally hand the steering wheel of your life over to God today and let Him drive. Make the choice to separate yourself from what the crowd is doing. Give Him the control and then watch, in wonder, what He does.

Why is this so important, so that when it comes time for you to give the account… of your life… God is only smiling.

Until next time Guys-

Killing them with Kindness

Posted: December 24, 2024 in Inspirational
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“Kindness is a language we can all speak. Even the Deaf can hear it and the Blind can see” Mother Teresa

Guys, in the entire history of this blog, I have never quoted Mother Teresa, but in this instance, with this topic, it is completely appropriate. I have been thinking about this topic for quite some time  and decided for this New Year, I wanted to share this alternative idea of responding to anger and frustration with kindness and compassion.

I have broken this post into 2 parts, so it can be read and consumed a little easier. The second post is my application of this kindness topic called “Practical Ways to Kill with Kindness” and it will be posted very soon.

Our world is marked by competition, conflict, and negativity, and the phrase “killing them with kindness” carries a HUGE meaning. It suggests a simple yet powerful truth: 

Kindness can disarm hostility, dissolve tension, and create connections in ways no other force can. 

Honestly, kindness is the complete opposite response to what we see every evening on the news.

But what does it mean to truly “kill with kindness”? And why does it make sense for us to practice it, especially in situations where kindness seems undeserved? I have compiled a short list for you to consider.

The Unexpected Strength of Kindness

So as men, kindness is often mistaken for weakness. Sometimes, people assume that being kind means letting others walk all over you or ignoring an injustice. In reality, kindness is a conscious choice that requires core strength, resilience, and HUGE patience. It’s about responding with grace, even when faced with negativity or a conflict. 

Choosing kindness is taking the high road when everyone expects you to do the alternative.

When you meet rudeness with kindness or counter aggression with a calm compassion, you do more than just take the moral high ground—you alter the angry energy of the entire interaction. This change can have a ripple effect, influencing not only the person you’re engaging with but also those who witness the exchange. I want you to remember because this is exactly what Christ did. He disarmed His foes with kindness and love.

Guys, here is why I think that using a kindness response will work for you;

1. It Breaks Down Barriers

When you respond to someone with unexpected kindness, it often catches them off guard. It is hard to maintain anger or hostility when faced with genuine goodwill. Over time, this can disarm negativity and also improve a mutual respect between you and them.

2.It Builds Bridges

Kindness can transform your adversary into an ally, literally. I have seen kindness create a foundations of trust even in the most difficult relationships. In your business, in your families, and in your friendships, simple kindness will open doors that would otherwise remain shut.

3.It Strengthens You

This is the biggest reason why choosing kindness is the right plan because it isn’t just about the other person—it’s about who you are. It reinforces your ability to stay grounded, stay true to your core Christian values, and maintain inner peace in challenging situations. 

Guys, this is fundamentally what Iron-Man-Strength.com is about and has been since the beginning. Yes, my goal has been to encourage and support you through all of the difficult times. I also wanted to remind you that you have an enemy, Satan, who is looking for every chance possible to help you fall off the cliff. 

This is why choosing kindness as your reaction to any situation will change you as a man before God. I wont lie to you and say this is easy to do because it isn’t. When we get mad or upset, emotions take over and even the very best men on on this have or will earth fail. BUT…and this is a big one. IF you allow God to help you, you can change.

As I mentioned up top, the second part of this post is the practical application of “Killing with Kindness” and my hope is that these will be simple steps you can use to help you when these kinds of situations arise. I promise you this is not Rocket Science. It is instead, easy and practical. The process just requires execution on your part.

Merry Christmas, Guys-

Until next time-